Marriage

The other night at a baby shower for some sweet friends, we seasoned parents were asked to give some advice to the newbies. Being the OG mom in the group, I had some sage advice for my friends as they embark on this insane trip of parenthood.  As I’ve thought more about it, and at the urging of some friends who enjoy my parenthood mishaps on social media, I decided to come up with the ultimate list of parenthood tips for you today. Now, let’s get one thing clear – I am not a parenting expert.  I am probably a pretty terrible parent by textbook standards.  I raise my voice probably a bit too much, and I also am not very consistent in my discipline at times.  My kids love McDonald’s, and we’ve watched Trolls fifteen times this week.  Our kids went to bed way too late last night because we just couldn’t drag ourselves away from Flip or Flop long enough for bedtime routines (three cheers for the pause button).  I don’t do things right all the time, but honestly, I don’t really care.  Which leads me to point number one… 1. Don’t listen to anyone else.  Ever.  (Ok, well except

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Last night, I painted ten little chubby fingers and ten little chubby toes the perfect shade of Sofia purple.  I brushed her long blonde hair, and she picked out her favorite pink dress, pink headband, and “pretty” shoes.  I led her to my jewelry box and she giggled as I pulled out my pearl necklace and fastened it around her neck. She waited not-so-patiently for her date to arrive, talking about what fun things she and her beau might do.  She had never been on a date before, and she was a bit nervous.  She danced down the hall and clicked her fancy shoes and waited for the moment. Then the doorbell rang, and she poked her head around the corner.  Is this it?  She opened the door slowly, and stood in shock. Her daddy was standing there in his nice clothes holding a bouquet of beautiful flowers. He hugged her tight and told her how beautiful she looked, and she grinned and smelled her flowers. After a few photos, they left for a magical evening at Chick Fil A, dessert at Coldstone, and a trip down the princess aisle at Target. When they returned home, she all but floated into the living

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It’s been a year since my post To My Husband in this Weird Phase of Life went viral. And by viral, I mean it has had over 500,000 views on my blog alone, not counting the over 1 million views on other websites that picked it up.  I would love to be able to know exactly how many Facebook shares it has had, but I can only guess that it’s over 300k.  It was the most shared and viewed post on For Every Mom for 2015. That’s mind-blowing. I’ve never painted myself as a perfect person.  I make mistakes.  A lot of mistakes.  I’ve never painted my marriage as perfect.  We have to work really really hard for our marriage not to crumble and fall to pieces.  It has not been easy for us.  By no means do I believe I am any sort of expert on marriage, parenting, Christianity, or life in general.  I’m just me, writing words down as I feel them and life as I experience it. It’s amazing what honesty will do for a person.  In conversation with a colleague one day, I said something to the effect of that I don’t really care what people

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It was placed on my heart to tell you this today.  I don’t know who you are, or what you’re going through, but we’ve all been there in some form or fashion.  I hope you find what you’re looking for in these words. It hurts today. I know it does. Someone took a cheese grater to your heart and left you with the shreds. I don’t pretend to know what you’re going through today.  It can be so many different things – a fight with your husband, an issue with a child, work problems, heartache, disappointment, betrayal, a loss, heavy decisions, or just a plain ole bad day.  Each one of us has something different that we attempt to smile through every morning. Some days are better than others.  Some days, you wake up and you think, “Ok, I can do this!”  Your mind is clear, your heart is steady, and you feel ok to laugh.  You see a glimmer of hope and promise that you can cling to for the moment. Some days are worse than others.  Some days, you wake up and wonder just how much more you can take before you absolutely crumble to the floor in a pile

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I got to spend a few solid hours with my husband yesterday in between his workdays with no kids. Such days are rare treats between his work schedule and kids and life and everything that gets in the way of us just being together. But we spent the day at a skeet shooting range with our friends in our Life Group class, and it really was not appropriate to have the kids with us.  So Mom kept them for the afternoon, and we spent the day shooting at clay targets (my first time firing a shotgun!) and hanging out together in God’s beautiful world. The whole day kind of made me swoon. I never get to see him in “police mode.”  He’s always my sweet, gentle, goofy guy.  But if you bring out a firearm around him, he immediately swaps into this powerful, steady, and focused man that, dare I say, is quite sexy.  I just HAD to tell him that in front of our Life Group leader, and I think I made them both blush.  He pulled me aside from the group and showed me how to load the shotgun, and gave me some safety tips.  Throughout the day, he

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To many modern day feminists, the words “Christian feminist” will automatically seem like an oxymoron.  I can hear it now.  How can a religion that boasts suppressing women and orders them to be submissive to their husbands be a religion that also allows for feminine power?  To those points, I have several arguments to how they just aren’t true, but that’s a post for another day. There’s also a viral post about not being a feminist, that I take some issue with.  I’m going to chalk it up to the author of that article being a little immature and under-experienced. But there absolutely is such a thing as a Christian Feminist.  I am one.  I am proud to say it.  I may not hit these marks 100% of the time, but I strive daily. A Christian Feminist is a woman who recognizes the design of an Ultimate Creator, who created man and woman differently, and called them both “very good.”  God found that it was not good for man to be alone, so He designed a woman to be his counterpart, his companion, and his helpmate.  With that natural and very good design, women were created to be everything that

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Today, my husband and I celebrate seven years of marriage. Today, we snuck into the church sanctuary where we said our vows seven years ago, took a selfie (naturally), and I took his hands in mine. I looked deep into his baby blue eyes and I told him I love him more than I did on that day. Seven years ago, standing in that exact same spot, I had no idea what life would bring us. Forever seems so idyllic when you’re in your white gown. Life has been wonderful at times, and unkind at others. We have cried and we have laughed. We have held each other tightly and we have pushed each other away. Forever is a lot more serious when you’re in it. Forever is a long way away. We’re only seven years into it. We’ve made a lot of mistakes. We are by no means perfect. We have been huge disappointments to our counterparts and we have screwed up royally. We’ve learned a lot of lessons in forgiveness. Because forgiveness is not just allowing a mistake to be let go. It’s about not allowing a mistake to affect your opinion of the offender. Forgiveness is not

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Yep.  Viral. Given that I have a pretty decent singing voice, I kind of always assumed that if people were going to hear my voice, it would be through song.  I didn’t get picked for American Idol, and no one has ever pulled up next to me in traffic to offer me a recording contract, so I think my viral dreams have moved on from singing. But apparently, my voice will be heard through the written word. I’ve always been told I am a good writer.  English teachers, family, my pastor, and especially my mother have always encouraged me to put words down on paper.  I am not a classically trained writer, save a few English comp and journalism classes that I made As in (and accused of plagiarism in…that’s a different story). So I started this little blog project years ago as letters to our daughter.  I was terrible at keeping a baby book, and this became hers.  I used it as an outlet for other things as well – social commentary, posts on Christian parenting and Christian world views.  I’ve been told I write honestly, and with conviction, and that many people, especially women, can relate.  Some of

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I would say this is not for debate’s sake, but I’m sure no one will listen to that.  My mother asked me if my fingertips were getting ready to preach, but for most of this morning, my mind has been completely empty, save two Bible verses that have been running through my head.  I think they are ready now, but I will do my best to keep from preaching.  But please – save me your “judgment” arguments, and your “procreation” arguments, and your Leviticus arguments about piercing my ears and eating pork and cutting my hands off.  I’ve heard them all, and all of them can be Biblically countered and I do not have the energy for that today. As I ironed my shirt this morning, NBC sounded the alarm of breaking news, and I already knew what it was about as Matt Lauer appeared on my screen.  A day that we all have been waiting for has finally come – gay marriage is now ruled constitutional in the United States of America. Politically, I disagree, as I do not believe this is a ruling void of emotion and opinion.  SCOTUS abused their powers as millions of Americans expressed their non-support

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I know you know what I’m saying. You, as a woman of God, desire to live a life as a disciple of Christ.  You read, you pray, you study, you attend church.  But at home, there is no support.  There is no one urging you to do this.  There is no one asking the family to sit down around the table and do family Bible time together.  No one initiates prayer time between the two of you. You turn to your girlfriends for counsel before you turn to him. Because he isn’t your spiritual leader. We know that it is Biblical for the man to be the leader of the household.  He is to love and lead his wife like Christ loves and leads the Church.  We, as the wife, are to submit to his authority and be his helper in leading the family to Christ. So what happens if your husband isn’t fulfilling his role? Before you start piling enormous amounts of pressure on yourself, take a moment to breathe. This is where we, as wives and mothers, have to pick up where the husband leaves off.  Someone has to be the leader.  Your first priority mission field is right

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