marriage

I would say this is not for debate’s sake, but I’m sure no one will listen to that.  My mother asked me if my fingertips were getting ready to preach, but for most of this morning, my mind has been completely empty, save two Bible verses that have been running through my head.  I think they are ready now, but I will do my best to keep from preaching.  But please – save me your “judgment” arguments, and your “procreation” arguments, and your Leviticus arguments about piercing my ears and eating pork and cutting my hands off.  I’ve heard them all, and all of them can be Biblically countered and I do not have the energy for that today. As I ironed my shirt this morning, NBC sounded the alarm of breaking news, and I already knew what it was about as Matt Lauer appeared on my screen.  A day that we all have been waiting for has finally come – gay marriage is now ruled constitutional in the United States of America. Politically, I disagree, as I do not believe this is a ruling void of emotion and opinion.  SCOTUS abused their powers as millions of Americans expressed their non-support

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I know you know what I’m saying. You, as a woman of God, desire to live a life as a disciple of Christ.  You read, you pray, you study, you attend church.  But at home, there is no support.  There is no one urging you to do this.  There is no one asking the family to sit down around the table and do family Bible time together.  No one initiates prayer time between the two of you. You turn to your girlfriends for counsel before you turn to him. Because he isn’t your spiritual leader. We know that it is Biblical for the man to be the leader of the household.  He is to love and lead his wife like Christ loves and leads the Church.  We, as the wife, are to submit to his authority and be his helper in leading the family to Christ. So what happens if your husband isn’t fulfilling his role? Before you start piling enormous amounts of pressure on yourself, take a moment to breathe. This is where we, as wives and mothers, have to pick up where the husband leaves off.  Someone has to be the leader.  Your first priority mission field is right

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Dear husband, I feel like you’re neglected on this blog.  I don’t mean to. I’ve spoken so often about our struggles and what it has taken to restore our marriage, that I often forget to tell you just how dadgum lucky I am that you picked me in the first place. This is no coincidence, of course.  I don’t believe in coincidences.  I believe in appointment. I often marvel at the appointments that led us together.  Had you and your mother not moved to Birmingham – Had you not been Claire’s third grade boyfriend – Had I not decided to go to Troy – Had I not pledged Phi Mu and moved into the sorority house with Claire – Had I obeyed my mother and stayed in Troy that night I drove to Birmingham – Had you not found me on Myspace (ok, so that’s a little embarrassing to mention) a year later – Had you not taken that leap of faith to drive down to see me – Had we not committed to each other that very weekend – Where would we be? I like to think that at some point, we would have still crossed paths.  Somehow, God would

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